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How To Help A Friend

If you or someone you know experiences violence, you’re not alone. Help is available.

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There are ways to communicate with someone in your life who has experienced sexual violence that can be healing for them and for you.

Believe:

People affected by sexual assault need to know that their support system (i.e. friends and family) believes them.

Listen:

Some survivors will want to talk about their experiences and some will not.  Be sure not to share information with others unless given permission.

Validate Feelings:

Acknowledge their sadness, anger, fear or confusion.  Let them know that their feelings are normal.  Assure them that they are not alone.

Support the Healing Process: 

Healing takes time.  Assure the survivor that this experience will cause some disruption in her/his life, but she/he can heal.  Do talk about other aspects of her/his life; help the survivor realize that she/he is not only a victim but also an important part of your life.  Encourage the survivor to seek help at IUP’s Counseling Center.

Find Support for Yourself:

Talk to someone about your feelings.  Remember; you’re an important person in the survivor’s life.  Call Alice Paul House or IUP’s Counseling Center for support for you.

From “Helping a Friend or Family Member who is Being Abused,” Empowering Youth to End Domestic Violence, www.breakthecycle.org

If you have questions or would like to speak to someone about an assault, help is available. Contact the Haven Project at the Alice Paul House (24/7) hotline at (724) 349-4444.

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